The Sexual Liberation of Me

I have mentioned before here that I like to be spanked, but also that I have never had a partner who was into spanking me. I never even mentioned the desire to my wife, Lee, until we'd been together almost fifteen years, and even then I did so tentatively, at best. At that time, she was reluctant to share that with me, for very good reasons: We are both survivors of childhood abuse. It is understandably difficult for to get her mind around spanking me as a way of loving me.

A Plea on Behalf of Cum

Most of my sexual partners, all of whom have been female,^* have basically been squeamish about cum. They just haven't cared for the stuff. I don't mean they didn't like to swallow. That's rarely even been a conversation worth having. Few of my sexual partners have wanted the stuff in their mouths period. In fact, they didn't really want it anywhere. They didn't want to touch it, and if it ended up inside them, then I guess that was just something they felt they had to deal with. It would get wiped up, or deposited in the toilet, or whatever.

Spanking Myself

As I mentioned in my first post on this topic, I like to be spanked. But I have never had a partner who really wanted to spank me. As a result, most of my spankings have been self-inflicted.

Self-spanking has gotten a little more notoriety recently, largely due to the appearance in October 2012 of a blog, The Art of Self-Spanking, that was devoted to the practice. The authors of the blog, who called themselves John and Jessica (and who are not a couple), also wrote an e-book by the same title. (Unfortunately, the blog has since ceased to be active, and, as far as I can tell, the e-book is no longer available.)

Being Spanked

I like to be spanked. I'm not into the BDSM scene, and the whole "Fifty Shades" phenomenon leaves me a bit cold. But I do like to be spanked.

Why? Several reasons.

Anal Sex

Charlie Glickman offers some of his usual wisdom about how to have enjoyable anal sex.
If you've never checked out Charlie's book, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, you might should do that.

Lots of Cum

I think I just masturbated for four days, starting on Monday and finishing on Thursday. Not continuously, of course, but on and off. It wasn't so much that I was touching myself a lot. I was spending a lot of time gathering erotic stories I've written over the years to put on this site, and writing a couple of new things about more recent experiences. I also spent some time reading erotica from other sites, and a little bit of time watching porn. And while doing all of this, I'd often just be touching my cock lightly through my shorts and panties, and it in turn was leaking precum into my panties, which were wet most of the time, and crusted with dry precum when they weren't wet. When I went to the bathroom, I'd either get wetness on my hand, from brushing against the inside of my panties, or else I'd see the dried precum inside them—itself an arousing sight.

The Ultimate Guide, Chs. 5-6

Continuing to read Glickman and Emirzian's Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. This update is about chapters 5 and 6.

The Ultimate Guide, Chs. 1-4

I've started reading The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian. I know a fair bit about the topic, but, as they say in the Introduction (p. xviii): "We thought we knew a lot before we started writing this book—we were surprised to discover how much more there was to know." I'm sure that's true, and I've already learned a few things.

Dr. Joel Kaplan Versatile Prostate Stimulator: A Reasonably Good Prostate Vibrator

Once I manage to get this toy in the right position, I'm able to orgasm with it repeatedly, so that's great. But getting it into the right position, and keeping it there, is more difficult than it ought to be. So, I find myself using this toy less than I otherwise might.

The Dr. Joel Kaplan Versatile Prostate Stimulator, from California Exotic Novelties, is obviously intended to be used by people with prostates. That said, I've seen what looks to be the same device advertised as a G-spot stimulator, and most P-spot vibrators will happily double as G-spot vibrators. So, it's likely that it can also be used that way. Since I've only got a prostate, though, I'll focus my review on that kind of use.